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estherdorkk:

STAGE 1:1-3 months = The Honeymoon Stage:
Everything seems perfect, both are happy and feeling “in love”. You share moments, dates, and just having fun with each other, sharing laughs and giggles. It’s like nothing could stop you. Your feelings are infinite, and for once you’re thinking ” This may work out.. ” and seems like nothing could go wrong. You spend hours getting ready before going out with this person.

• *If your relationship ended in this stage - Most likely, both rushed into the relationship to fast. Being together was all too sudden and just for the moment. When one starts noticing the flaws, one gets a choice to move foward, or  back away. Being friends has a high percentage of working out, but nothing to stress over. Both maybe just need the time to know one another more.

STAGE 2: 4-6 months = The Bumpy Road:
Things are going okay now. The relationship is calm and settled; both are still mostly happy. Had a couple arguments and disagreements here and there, nothing huge. Start to notice some of each other’s flaws and aspects of their personality not seen before, but still truely care for one another.

• *If your relationship ended in this stage - You truly cared about this person. You had the energy to fight for this person, yet, you feel as if something was lacking, something was missing , it doesn’t feel right, one isn’t happy. When one isn’t happy, one tends to walk away to seek their new happiness. Being friends is still a possibility.

STAGE 3: 7-12 months = The Rocky Mountain:
You start to realize who your partner really is. A few more arguements may occur. Problems with jealously. Over protectiveness may rise. Other people may come in the picture. The “in love” momments start to decrease, but you feel as if, you’ve “fallin in love”. You tend to have this energy inside to strive and “make it work”, you feel more comfortable being around this person, feeling more of yourself.

• *If your relationship ends in this stage - You feel as if you’re hurt- depending on the circumstance. You were so sure that that person was “the one”. You were so SURE that he/she was different. But like a cancer, a problem that may have happened; a small issue, grew into something larger that took over what was made between two people. You still miss this person from time to time. You still remember the memories. Being friends may be difficult right away, but over time, you slowly mature up, and learn the reality of it.

STAGE 4: 1 year or more = The Long Road:

• 1 2 3 4 5 years huh ? This person truly means something to you. You are “in love” with this person . He/She made a difference in your life. No one else knows you more than this person. You guys have been through the good, the bad, the ugly, and still strive to make it last.
  
  • If your relationship ends at this stage - You feel heart broken; it’s tough. You can’t sleep, can’t eat, you miss him/her, you try to move on, you try meeting new people , but seems like nothing works. For whatever reason for the split, it must’ve been something important, or something must have been so wrong that it took over. Being “just friends” is impossible, because if you tried to be friends, you can’t think of them in any other way besides the one you once “loved” .

lickystickypickyme:

Reporters not allowed to speak to children to guard against false hope

Even amid the carnage and despair of Japan’s tsunami victims, the plight of the 30 children at Kama Elementary School is heartbreaking.

They sit quietly in the corner of a third-floor classroom where they have waited each day since the tsunami swept into the town of Ishinomaki for their parents to collect them. So far, no one has come and few at the school now believe they will.

Teachers think that some of the boys and girls, aged between eight and 12, know their fathers and mothers are among the missing and will never again turn up at the gates of the school on the eastern outskirts of the town, but they are saying nothing.

Instead, they wait patiently reading books or playing card games watched over by relatives and teachers, who prevent anyone from speaking to them.

Officials fear that even the sound of the door sliding back might raise false hope that a parent has come to collect them. Their silence is in marked contrast to other children playing in the corridors of the four-storey building, whose parents survived due to a complete fluke.

Sports teacher Masami Hoshi said: ‘The tsunami came just when the parents of the middle age group were starting to arrive to collect their children so we managed to get them inside and to safety.

‘The younger ones had left with their parents a little earlier. The ones who went to homes behind the school probably survived, the ones who went the other way probably didn’t.’

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